As a result of living in China there are a number of microagressions I come across on a daily basis and likewise witness Chinese people coming across microagressions daily too.
China is very well-known for shopping and getting really good deals if you bargain. There is a shopping complex not far from my home that you can wheel and deal good bargains for almost next to nothing. I remember my first experience when going to this huge shopping complex, I was quite startled, irritated and taken aback when my friends and I were called “Hey missy come shop”. At one stage I looked at a lady and said “I am not missy, I am a lady.” When I think of the word “missy” I cringe and do not think of wonderful images of what a “missy” is and since I was a little girl was taught it is unkind and impolite to call someone a “missy” as in one of the languages in South Africa “missy” is a very derogative word.
When looking back at this happening to me many times whilst shopping I now laugh and every time I go shopping and I am told “Hey missy come shop” I reply ” Say lady, rather than missy” and most vendors do understand what I am saying. Having said that I perceive that microagression certainly comes from a place of supremacy, misconceptions, oblivion and a place of they don’t know any better. Therefore I believe that discrimination, prejudice and stereotyping come from these places too, however can be deliberate as well. I believe that in order for us to overcome discrimination, prejudice and stereotyping is through educating and correcting those around us in a gentle and kind manner to let them know that it is unacceptable, hurtful and to walk in the shoes of those who we criticize.